DATING STORIES

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We met online. After some time, we exchanged numbers. We decided to meet. He had a great voice. He said he would come and pick me up. I saw his car outside my apartment building, so I went outside. I saw his big Afro silhouette. He was facing forward. He didn’t get out to open the door. When I got in, he said “Nice to meet you, are you ready to go? Let’s eat at (name removed).” He never looked at me. When I looked at him, he was a White Guy wearing an Afro wig and “black face”. He started driving and I was a little scared. We stopped at a traffic light. I told him “I have to go to that candy store back there and pick up some gum”. Still not looking at me he said, “Want me to back up?” I said “No, No! That’s ok, I will just walk back!” I walked to the store, never turned around, and just kept walking till I got home. I left a message on his voice mail, I said, “I don’t call you, you don’t call me.” I never heard from him again.

We met on the internet. She said we could wet in the city. I asked her to meet me at my job. I told the security guard to let me know when she arrived. He called me on the phone in my office and said she was there. It was time for me to leave, so I went to meet her.  The guard told me she went to the store across the street. So, I went to find her. She was super fine! Great shape, legs, and clothes. We decided to go to (name removed). As we ate, she fed me. She rubbed my leg under the table with her feet. After dinner, she suggested we go to her place. We got there late. As I sat on her couch, I saw some of her awards for being a correctional officer. Her phone rang, and she started screaming and cursing. She hung up. I walked to the kitchen to see what happened. She said to me “Where are you going!!” I said I needed the bathroom. She motioned to where it was. The phone rang again, and the same thing happened. I heard a glass break. I said to myself, if it happens again, I am leaving. It did. I went to get my jacket. She said, “Where do you think you’re going?” She pulled out her gun and pointed it at me and said that her stents were paying her car note and they couldn’t keep paying so the Repo Guy was coming to get her car and she would have no way to get to work. All this while pointing the gun at me. She then said, “Get in the bedroom!” I might have wanted to be there before, but not now. When I got in the bedroom she started to cry. She said, “Take off your clothes!” I said to her…. “You don’t want to do this like this…” she said “No…” I said “No. Tell you what, I will come back tomorrow night when you have things straightened out. Bring champagne and flowers and we can have a good time.” She said “yes?” I said “YES! Things will be much better then.” She wiped the tears from her face, took her finger off the trigger, and put the gun down. She said “ok.” I got my coat, left, and never called her again….We met online. After some time, we exchanged numbers. We decided to meet. He had a great voice. He said he would come and pick me up. I saw his car outside my apartment building, so I went outside. I saw his big Afro silhouette. He was facing forward. He didn’t get out to open the door. When I got in, he said “Nice to meet you, are you ready to go? Let’s eat at (name removed).” He never looked at me. When I looked at him, he was a White Guy wearing an Afro wig and “black face”. He started driving and I was a little scared. We stopped at a traffic light. I told him “I have to go to that candy store back there and pick up some gum”. Still not looking at me he said, “Want me to back up?” I said “No, No! That’s ok, I will just walk back!” I walked to the store, never turned around, and just kept walking till I got home. I left a message on his voice mail, I said, “I don’t call you, you don’t call me.” I never heard from him again.

I had a cable tv show at the time. My co-host wanted to date me. I kept telling her no, because she was dating a police officer. This went on for months. I kept telling her “find me somebody else, like a friend.” She saw an old friend of hers in a mall. She asked her if she was seeing anyone, she must have said no. She gave her my phone number and told her to call me. She did. Our first phone call was 4 hours long! After a couple of calls we met and went out. One thing lead to another and 5 months later we got married. Three children later, it lasted for 13 years before we called it quits. But it was still great and we are still friends and parents.

I met someone through the internet Dating site (name removed). I met a great woman. She is a schoolteacher. We met on Valentine’s Day. We went out and went bowling. We had a great time. We have gone out a number of times over the years. We went out for about 12 years. Then one day she said that was it. She didn’t want to go out anymore. I wanted to take her out for her birthday, but she refused. That night I had planned to pop the question. It is crazy, but we are the best of friends now. It’s going on 20 years that we know each other. I wish I could get a chance to pop the question again.

In today's world, with all the modern technology available, distance in a relationship is not as challenging as it used to be. With video calls, email, and texting, it's easier to stay connected with your loved ones even when they are far away. But despite all these advancements, nothing beats physical touch. So, how do you keep the love and passion alive in a long-distance relationship?

The key is to have honest and open communication with your partner. In the initial stages of dating, you must have shared a deep connection with each other. You must have seen the spark of love and passion in each other's eyes, and you must have had common interests and hobbies.

But what happens when one of you gets a great job offer, or you need to study abroad, or you have an opportunity to see the world? In such cases, you choose the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity over the closeness of the relationship. But how do you keep the relationship alive?

Trust is the foundation of any long-distance relationship. You must trust each other completely. If you feel the need to call or video chat your partner all the time, it indicates that you don't have enough trust in your relationship. If you start doubting your partner every time they don't answer your calls or messages, it indicates that you don't trust them.

However, the best part of a long-distance relationship is when you finally get to see each other in person. The passion and love that you have been longing for can be so intense and fulfilling. Even if it's just for a day or a weekend, it can help keep the relationship going for an extended period. As long as you keep the lines of communication open, your long-distance relationship can continue to grow and thrive.

Remember to celebrate important occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays together, whether you are near or far away. It will help keep the sparks of love and passion flying.

Chivalry, as defined in the dictionary means, “the medieval knightly system with its religious, moral, and social code”. How can you be Chivalrous in a relationship, or when dating? There are some simple things to do as a man, make your date, spouse, or loved one feel special every day of the year.

Women are in charge of so much today, as the man you need to plan the date. When you pick her up for the date, don’t just call her on your cellphone, actually walk to her front door, ring the bell, and greet her with a big smile and maybe even a gift (important in being Chivalrous). It doesn’t have to be expensive, just something that took some thought. You don’t have to own a car, you could use a Ride Share company or taxi. If she is uncomfortable with you knowing where she lives just yet, you can make arrangements to meet somewhere else. Make sure you get there first. Whether you drove there or used a ride-share, make sure you get out, and open the door for her (important in being Chivalrous). Greet her with a light hug, and the gift. Close the door and take her to the place for the date.

When you arrive at the location, get out and walk to her door and open it, giving her your hand to assist her in exiting the car. The location could be a restaurant, a park, a mini golf course, or bowling lanes. It should not be a movie theatre, concert, or show for the first date. The most important thing on the date is Communication. As you walk from the car, you should be walking on the curbside of the street (important in being Chivalrous). Hold her hand if she lets you and guide her to the location.

Once you get to the door, open it for her to enter. If there is a second door, open it as well. If you are going to a restaurant or any other indoor location, make sure you guide your date to where you will be seated. Before sitting down, if she is wearing a coat, help her remove it (important in being Chivalrous). Before she attempts to sit, pull out her chair and hold it as she sits and guide her and the chair towards the table (important in being Chivalrous). Place the coat over an extra chair at the table.

Review the menu together and allow her to order her drink, appetizer, entrée, and dessert first (important in being Chivalrous). If you are having your date with another couple, allow both women to order first. Make sure you communicate with your date throughout the meal. Take a photo of your date, then ask the server to take a picture of the two of you together. Of course you must take a picture of the food. Then, to make a great gesture, at the start of the meal, turn off your cell phone, so that your date knows that you are concentrating on her and her alone (important in being Chivalrous). 

Make sure you ask each other questions that make sense to each other. Try not to talk about past relationships. Talk about what you are looking for. What you want to accomplish in the near future and what your long-term goals are. You don’t want all of your likes to be the same. If you like roller skating and she likes ice skating, you can try each other’s likes. If you like steak, and she likes seafood, your next date (if there is one) can be a Surf n Turf dinner. Make your likes and dislikes work for both of you. Have fun trying each other’s likes.

After dinner and dessert, if you are having a good time, you can take a short walk, holding hands. So, if there were any questions your date or you didn’t ask in the restaurant or other indoor location, you can ask on the walk. Help her on with her coat (important in being Chivalrous) if she has one. Then, step outside, making sure to walk on the curb side of the street. 

Before the date starts to drag, offer to take her home. If she lets you drive her home or Ride Share her, things must have gone well. If she says she will find her own way home, things didn’t go as you wished. But if she says yes, take her home with light conversation. Whether you drove or ride shared, leave her where she asks. It could be her front door or just at the corner. Tell her what a great time you had and let her go home.

When you get home and if it’s not too late, you can call her or text her and tell her how great the date was, and that you can’t wait to see her again. – KEEP CHIVALRY ALIVE AND WELL…